This is the first entry here.
This is all about the family that I had to leave behind in California.
April 4, 2012
I get arrested. Charged with ID issues.
I get detained. Jailed until June 27, 2012
Then sent to Immigration until August 15th, 2012.
On August 15th, 2012, I was released and returned to the United Kingdom.
I have not seen my children, or wife since June 25th, 2012.
I have seen my children and wife just three (yes 3 times) since April 2012.
A total of 3 hours for the children, and a couple more for the wife.
Since August 15th (7am) I have not spoken to my wife.
She no longer takes my calls.
It's understandable.
It wouldn't be this way if it were not for me.
I have fortunately been able to speak to the children, and text them.
I text my wife several times a day.
I text the children (viber) many many times a day.
Only my son texts me back.
I have not spoken to my daughter in 3 weeks, she's hardly there, or they are not together.
My children mean everything to me.
Night
At night I hold their favorite stuffed toys, every night. A friend of mine who was in California when I was arrested brought these back for me. Blue (Sebastian's) and Yellow (Kaitlin's). Without these two items I'd have nothing tangible of the children's.
Day
In the day I occupy myself with walking and working. I don't have a car here (yet) and I am prepared to wait a while. But I need to get one soon, before the really bad weather starts. I also need to get things prepared for the children for when they eventually come here.
Wife
I realize that she hates me. With a passion I expect.
But she won't talk.
How do I fix this? I dearly want to fix it, I need my family back.
It's not a want it's a need.
Me
So me, I'm 41. I lived in San Diego for 14 years, almost 15. Since 1998. No one (well several) knew that I was illegal. I hid it well; I never thought that I would be able to get a legal residency, now I'm convinced that despite being banned for just 5 years, (or 260 weeks, of which I have been here 7) I don't think that the US will allow me back in. I just have that feeling, I'm a criminal now, with 3x Felonies. That won't help me at all.
I owe my wife money. I used her name, and got some credit as I was trying to fund a business, and that was a terrible thing to do, especially as she did not know. Now I owe her $20,000 through the cards, which I have already started to repay. I also owe her for general living and raising the children in my absence, which as I am sorted out here I will start to pay.
Additionally, I will owe the children money. It is that which I am feeling really bad for, but that will be repaid with triple interest. As will the money that I owe Jenny. (wife).
During jail and detention, Nikki (sister) and my mom and dad helped me. Jenny stopped helping me in Mid-May, and said essentially that I was on my own. I had to have my UK family send me some money. God it was horrible.
Sebastian & Kaitlin
The majority of the posts on here will be about the children, S n K. I adore them both, S is mini-me and K is princess. I love them to death. I would die for them with no question. I miss them terribly.
I will write about jail and detention on another post.
I am still hurting from these things.
I am hurt that Jenny abandoned me in jail and now here in England.
I need money to start a new life, I need a new car, new clothes and more. I have the clothes (bought some new and got my family to get me some), I have borrowed an iPhone (free iMessage to the children) from Nikki and I will get a new one in a few weeks, so as I can do FaceTime with the children. It might be the only way that I can see them.
Next post?
Not sure.
I might look to join a group for parents in the same situation as I.
